Life does not care if it is a “new year”.

From a place a facts,  it is indeed a new year – again. To me, a new year would normally constitute a new and unrealistic list of how I would start to improve my life, surroundings and life in general. I am sure some of you will recognise this list. The list of perfection and ambition, the list that never ends and reminds you of what you could not tick off the list from last year.I am talking classic bullet points of: being a better person (what does that even mean?!), travel more, be more active and exercise, spend more quality time with friends and family, adopt a dog and etc.

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These lists have not done anything for me, other than to constitute that putting “something” on a list does not make it happen. Not for me anyway. If anyone has found a way to make something happen by simply putting it down as a bullet point, let me know. 

What I have learned is that life does not care about it being a new year and life does certainly not care about any list you might be working on. Life carries on, as usual. If you had little time and money last year to go travel, it will most likely be the same for the “new year”. So far into the new year, it is all pretty much the exact same. Where am I going with this? I am not sure, but I want to make the point that no matter what we may write down in hopes of the paper and pen creating miracles, it is only you who can make a change. Personally, I find that if a change is to take place, you must truly want to make that change, be able to make that change and be in an environment that allows for that change. That is the only bullet point list I need.

So put away your pen and paper or whatever device you may chose to write down your hopes and dreams. Start to feel and sense what change you want, a change that makes you a happier person.

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I am starting with this blog post.
I want to write a blog.
I am capable of writing, I think.
I have the time, energy and tools to write a blog.

Off to a good start by using overused pictures – but such is life. 

#goingtobethebestyearever

 

 

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What no shopping does to a shopaholic…

As part of my many new years resolutions, I decided not to shop for 6 months. I had to convince myself many-a-times, actually more so I had to convince friends and family that I was going to be OK. There were some seriously worried people out there who were genuinely worried that I would become unhappy and be uninspired in the clothing department. What I took from that was: I shop too much, to the point where people believe it is my main source of happiness (!) and that it would be a great challenge.

The concern from friends and family was the tipping point – of course I can be happy without shopping. I wanted to not shop for the following reasons:

Appreciate what I have

Now, 5 months and 2 weeks into the process I must say that it was much easier than I thought. I have mixed and matched like never before to the point where friends and family thought I had gone shopping. Goes to show that you do not need new clothes for a new look. I feel a sense of relief that I have been able to truly appreciate what I have and feel grateful. Surprisingly, I have never thought the destructive thought of “I have nothing to wear” in front of a garment rack filled to its maximum capacity. This has to be tied in to renewed appreciation. I have spent money on travel that have lead to adventures I will never forget. To sum it all up, I feel great! Do not get me wrong, I am looking forward to going shopping again as it is something I truly enjoy, but it no longer strikes me that I “need” anything. I believe that I now have the mindset of it being OK to admit you want something, as oppose to constantly protect impulse buys as a “need”.

So here I am, almost 6 months without shopping and feeling really good about it. I doubt I will fall back into “maniac shopping mood” again and continue to respect what I already have so much more.

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